The Tin Man is the Cling-on's polar opposite: distant, inscrutable, and taciturn. All of which makes him an intriguing challenge. You figure that, like his namesake in the "Wizard of Oz", the Tin Man must have a heart somewhere beneath that cool exterior.
This notion is not completely absurd. the Tin Man does, after all, boast a romantic resume thats both long and impressive, which suggests that intimacy is not repellent to him. He often reinforces this illusion by waxing poetic about another woman for whom he still carries a torch. You convince youself this is a hopefull sign; if he feel so strongly about her, he can feel even more strongly about you. It's only a matter of time.
Which is why you hang in there, despite his dazzling displays of indifference. He rarely phones, and when he does, you feel such an immense rush of relief that you dont question his pathetic excuses: " I was in Fort Lauderdale and didn't have a phone card," or, "Has it really been two weeks? I've been so busy at work, guess I lost track of time."
In Stage one of a relationship with a Tin Man, you excuse his coolness as evidence of an unhappy childhood: ' He's psychologically scarred because his parents never expressed their love for him-- i can heal him.' In Stage two, after you've met his remarkably warm and well-adjusted family, you begin thinking the problem is with you: you're not pretty enough, or sophisticated enough, or mysterious enough to keep his interest. By Stage three, your entire existance revolves around trying to win his approval.
The longer the two of you are together, the less affectionate he is ( if you protest the state of affairs, however, he will suggest that you're neurotic and something of a Cling-on in your own right). Which is why the sex never ceases to be exciting, even though the Tin Man's technique is utterly devoid of emotion: it's just about the only indication you ever get that he wants to be with you.
On paper, the Tin Man looks like the easiest kind of man to ditch because you get so little from him. In reality, however, he's one of the most difficult types to leave, and the reason is you. You don't want to go until you have indisputable proof that he cares about you. Just one tiny problem: you're never gonna get it.
Favorite Expression: "Whatever"
Favorite Possession: His car